Jason and James share their adoption journey
Jason and James from Staffordshire first thought about adoption four years ago. As a same sex male couple in their 40’s, they had long ago ruled out the dream of having children of their own, but over the years, with equality and diversity legislation changing the face of society, adoption seemed like a real possibility for them.
After three years of careful consideration, thinking about how it would affect their lives and more importantly how it could affect the lives of the children they might adopt, in September 2010 they approached Staffordshire County Council’s Adoption Service.
Jason said: “During the three years we had been considering adoption, we had bought and read many books on the subject, and, on the basis of what we had read, both in these books and also in the media, we geared ourselves up for a hugely complex, very intrusive and impersonal process that may have taken about three years.
“We could not have been more wrong, the process and support was excellent. Just three months after our initial enquiry, we were attending our adoption support group, a three-day course attended prior to starting the in-depth assessment process. A week after this, we were allocated our social worker, Lyndsey Hunt from Staffordshire County Council’s Adoption Service who was fabulous and supported us every step of the way.”
Lyndsey supported Jason and James through the various stages of the process. This included around 10 home visits during which they were interviewed both individually and together about every aspect of their lives, their habits and lifestyles, their work and their families and their values and beliefs.
In September 2011, just one year after Jason and James first contacted Staffordshire County Council’s Adoption Service with their initial enquiry, they had two children under the age of four living happily with them and their lives had changed beyond all recognition.
Jason added: “The process was nothing like what we expected or had read about and the support was second to none. Sure we have tough days, like most parents, but just being called Daddy every day, and the many hugs and kisses we get from our children make it all worthwhile. Thank you Lyndsey, you made our dream come true.”
To find out more about adopting with us call 0800 169 2061 or come along to our next information meeting.
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