Carl's Story

Carl and Natasha adopted a sibling group of 2, they explainboys playing cricket their adoption journey

My wife Natasha, and I adopted our two boys 5 or 6 years ago now, when they were 9 (Mark) and 8 (Kevin). We had decided, early on in the adoption process, that we wanted to adopt two children, as we did not want to go through the whole process again in a few years, if we adopted only one child at the beginning. We knew that we did not want to raise an only child. In fact, at one point, we had thought of adopting three children – but we are glad now that we saw sense on that one!

Our Social Worker, was very good in guiding us towards Mark and Kevin. We had said that we didn't want to adopt a child under five or over 10. So, the ages that they boys were, when we first met them, were ideal. We all got along well together right from the start, although there have been issues along the way – Mark has anger problems, on occasion, and Kevin has learning difficulties. However, they are both growing into lovely young men and we are so pleased that we adopted them – even with the teenage temper tantrums just now!

Mark and Kevin are part of a bigger sibling group – five in all, with a brother and sister with one adoptive family and the youngest sister with another adoptive family. Mark and Kevin are the oldest and Mark was, in fact, acting as the main carer for quite a few years before the children were taken into care. We all meet up three or four times a year, so that the children can all catch up with each other. They also keep in touch on the phone and by email – and, no doubt, Facebook and the like will play a big part too, as they all get older!

We both feel that it was great that we were able to adopt Mark and Kevin, as we feel sure that, if we had not done so, because they were older children, then the next step would have been for them to be separated for two single adoptions or long term fostering - and that would not have been right for either of them. Social Services had tried to place all five children together, then as three boys and two girls – but we are delighted with the final result of us having our two boys.

To find out more about adopting with us call 0800 169 2061 or come along to our next information meeting.